Do you feel like your life has been hijacked by another's addiction?
Do you feel like you have reached rock bottom?
Do you obsess about your loved one's addiction?
Are you trying to fix someone else's life?
Are you always exhausted, stressed, anxious, angry, sad, frustrated?
Do you feel powerless to help your loved one?
Does nothing you try work?
If you have been living with addiction in the family system, especially during lockdown, I am fairly sure you will have answered yes to most of these questions. How do I know this? Well, I have danced that dance and ridden that chaotic rollercoaster, for many years, and I know how debilitating it can be.
Loving someone struggling with addiction is one of the hardest things we get to do. The person you love most in the world is disappearing before your eyes, each and every day. Whether that person is your soulmate, your child, your sibling, your parent, your friend, we experience a loss, a bereavement as the addiction takes over. We suffer and I mean suffer huge amounts of stress, anxiety, anger, frustration, pain, hopelessness, powerlessness, and we become as sick as our loved ones. It truly is a family dis-ease.
We now know, for the best outcome for the whole family, two things need to happen.
1. The addict needs to work a recovery programme and keep accessing support and help (in whatever form) for as long as possible.
2. The family needs to get educated around addiction and learn new ways of being so that they can start to contribute towards recovery and not addiction and become part of the solution. This is what I call Family Recovery!
I work with families struggling with addiction using compassion, empathy, kindness, and love for self and for our struggling loved one. If you want to find out more about how you can start your journey towards healing and becoming the best chance of your loved one finding and staying in long term recovery, please check out my online classes page and email me on [email protected] You do not have to do this alone.