Frequently Asked Questions
Do I really need a Family Recovery Coach?
All I can say is, YES! I wish I had had one when I was going through the chaos of addiction in my family!
Living with active addiction is not only exhausting, but it can lead to certain behaviours that are both unhealthy to you and the addict and can cause fear, anger, anxiety, frustration, isolation and helplessness. It is often difficult to see the part you play around your loved one’s addiction and only too often I hear clients saying, “I don’t have a problem, it’s all their fault, they are the ones who are screwed up and with the problem." I know this is how I felt.
It is very helpful to work with someone who knows what you are going through from their own experience and can help you to look at the situation from a different perspective. When you start to role model how to live a loving, fulfilling, fun life, your loved one often looks across and chooses to join you in recovery as well.
How is coaching different from therapy?
Coaching is not therapy. It is not designed to address psychological issues and although we might look briefly into your past to look for a pattern which has led to a particular behavior/belief, we concentrate on where you are now and where you want to get to. The primary focus of a Family Recovery Coach is to teach families a proven method to help them take back control of their lives, regain their sanity and in the process, learn how to be their loved one’s best chance of getting into and staying in recovery.
What if I am already attending Al Anon/Nar Anon meetings, seeing a therapist, or participating in a support group?
Well done you, these are all important parts of support. Often it is found that working with a Family Recovery Coach alongside of any or all of the above can contribute to and speed up their personal recovery from the impact of addiction in the family.
How long do I need to work with a coach for?
There is no hard and fast rule for this and it is up to you. Some people get so excited by the transformations they see in their lives that they want to keep coaching long term. Others prefer to work to a timescale. In order to really start to see the benefits of coaching, I encourage my clients to commit to 12 sessions but if you would rather book from week to week then that is fine too.